Choose benches not chairs. They make it so much easier to seat a big group especially with last minute additions. We rented the tables and benches from Raj Tent Club. They’re beautifully made in Jodhpur. Clear away as much furniture as possible but keep side tables for guests to perch a drink.

Skip the starter. Nobody wants to sit down too long. We handed round big plates of charcuterie and roasted spiced nuts with drinks. Focus on one hot main course and then side dishes that can be served cold or warm. My mother-in-law cooked an enormous chicken cacciatore then for sides the boys made jewelled couscous, winter slaw, slow-cooked aubergines the night before.

Renting plates and glasses is money well spent. It eases the washing up (just give them a rinse) and it’s a fabulous way to add colour and joy to the table.

A single flower in bud vases is stunning on a long table. These anemones took 3 days to open so allow for that at this time of year. I added pomegranates and plums for more colour.

Always do puddings that can be made ahead. In this case, I baked a towering birthday cake (try this similar recipe) and my signature triple chocolate brownies.

Hand a flash camera around the guests... Encourage speeches... Warn your neighbours!

Credits

Plates & glasses: The Social Kitchen
Candlesticks: Addison Ross
Benches & tables: Raj Tent Club
Candles: Candle Flair
Dress: Needle & Thread

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